I've
known a few people who always thought someone was plotting against them when
something unfortunate happened. If they lost a belonging, they'd immediately
say it was stolen and start blaming family and friends. If their pet got sick,
they'd say it must have been poisoned by their neighbor. One of these people
had been diagnosed with a mental health condition involving paranoia. But from
an emotional perspective, it makes
sense why a person might prefer to believe they're being attacked than to think
random circumstances are causing harm. Even though it's upsetting to believe
someone is out to get them, it provides a distinct reason for what happened and
a target to fault. It gives the person a sense of control, even if they think
somebody *else* was in control. And it stops self-blame or undirected blame,
which leads to sadness. Instead that is converted to anger, which feels more
organized by offering a goal.
I'm not saying this is a reasonable or productive way to respond to bad circumstances--it's not. But it's understandable why somebody might gravitate toward that reaction.
I'm not saying this is a reasonable or productive way to respond to bad circumstances--it's not. But it's understandable why somebody might gravitate toward that reaction.