People tend to
think that if you love someone unconditionally, then you're obligated to trust
them unconditionally as well. But while love may not always be
"earned," trust definitely is. I've heard it said that the best way
to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them. It's true, but if they
proceed to betray your confidence, you're not obliged to continue to trust them
out of love. That can turn into enabling.
I'm not referring to romantic relationships. That type of love, while incredibly strong, is often built on the way your partner behaves. And even if the love itself is unconditional, the relationship isn't entirely so. I'm thinking more along the lines of family relationships; people you didn't choose to bring into your life but need to establish boundaries with, which can sometimes mean limiting or ending contact. Standing up for yourself does not mean you no longer love them.
I'm not referring to romantic relationships. That type of love, while incredibly strong, is often built on the way your partner behaves. And even if the love itself is unconditional, the relationship isn't entirely so. I'm thinking more along the lines of family relationships; people you didn't choose to bring into your life but need to establish boundaries with, which can sometimes mean limiting or ending contact. Standing up for yourself does not mean you no longer love them.
