Unconditional love vs. unconditional trust

People tend to think that if you love someone unconditionally, then you're obligated to trust them unconditionally as well. But while love may not always be "earned," trust definitely is. I've heard it said that the best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them. It's true, but if they proceed to betray your confidence, you're not obliged to continue to trust them out of love. That can turn into enabling.
              I'm not referring to romantic relationships. That type of love, while incredibly strong, is often built on the way your partner behaves. And even if the love itself is unconditional, the relationship isn't entirely so. I'm thinking more along the lines of family relationships; people you didn't choose to bring into your life but need to establish boundaries with, which can sometimes mean limiting or ending contact. Standing up for yourself does not mean you no longer love them.

The subjectivity of forgiveness

Forgiveness is complicated, personal, and different for everyone. While there isn't a one-size-fits-all solution, I would say that nobody should try to pressure or rush anyone else into forgiveness. It might take a long while—and there's no "correct" or prescribed time frame you need to adapt to. It's also okay if there's never a point when you're able to forgive an action or a person (also, people and their actions can be separated and forgiven at different times). It isn't an obligation. If anybody tries to convince you that you owe it to them after they've done serious harm, then they're not genuinely remorseful and probably haven't changed.