Unconditional love vs. unconditional trust

People tend to think that if you love someone unconditionally, then you're obligated to trust them unconditionally as well. But while love may not always be "earned," trust definitely is. I've heard it said that the best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them. It's true, but if they proceed to betray your confidence, you're not obliged to continue to trust them out of love. That can turn into enabling.
              I'm not referring to romantic relationships. That type of love, while incredibly strong, is often built on the way your partner behaves. And even if the love itself is unconditional, the relationship isn't entirely so. I'm thinking more along the lines of family relationships; people you didn't choose to bring into your life but need to establish boundaries with, which can sometimes mean limiting or ending contact. Standing up for yourself does not mean you no longer love them.

A preference is not a double standard.

One thing that really irritates me is when somebody is accused of having "double standards" just because they're comfortable doing things with some people but not others. This doesn't mean they're denouncing a specific behavior altogether and then letting it slide when it comes from a few select friends. Rather, I'm talking about comfort with being teased or touched or engaging in particular types of jokes with certain people, but not interacting with everybody in the same way. That's not a double standard; it's only natural for most of us. No matter how extroverted you may be, there are certain things only a close friend can say to you. There may be some people who can run up and grab or hug you, but that doesn't mean you want just anyone to do that. (As for me, I would accept a hug from most friends and acquaintances, but I respect that not everybody wants one. I let them offer it first.) This is sometimes used against a woman when she turns down a man's approach. "Oh, so you'd let that guy buy you a drink, but not me? Such a double standard." A preference isn't a double standard. It's not hypocritical. You're allowed to be receptive to some individuals and not others. Anyway, if the person making that complaint did see that the one they're interested in is giving their number out to everyone or accepting every drink offered, they would most likely take issue with that, too. In that circumstance, one pretends to hate all "double standards" on principle, but is only upset when they're not the one who benefits. And that is a true double standard.