An all too common relationship pattern I notice: One person
is afraid the other is going to leave them, and this fear may not be grounded
in reality. So instead of trying to talk to their partner about what's going on
or try to reconnect and be closer, they lash out at them and become vindictive
because they're anticipating abandonment. And then, in a self-fulfilling
prophecy, the other person does leave them—but only because of the way they
started behaving. This seems to happen a lot.
